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I’m so sorry to hear that, Tweetipie. It’s hit you very hard, out of the blue, and it’s not inappropriate at all. People take different paths, for good reasons, but deep down we don’t ever stop loving, nor should we. There’s an old love in my life too, from 40 years ago, now living on the far side of America, and it seems likely I shall never see him again, but we still keep in touch occasionally and will always regard each other as friends. I would be hit very hard if I learned that he had died, and like you, would find it difficult to talk about it to those near to me, who might not understand how I feel.
Just go on staying safe - I’ve not seen our children and grandchildren for over a year, but I feel the best gift we can give them is to try to stay safe, and still be there for them when better times return.
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Tweetypie said:
I just feel the need to post something. I can't really speak to anyone and I know it's not really appropriate. Before I remarried, I had another relationship, which lasted 2 years or so. I sort of lived with him. Anyway, I received a phone call, Sunday morning, oddly enough from my boss, who lives in the same village as him, informing me that he had been in hospital with covid for a week and died Saturday night. 53 years old. Not a smoker or big drinker. Very fit man. Lived at the gym. I just cannot process it. That's he's dead. Hits hard when its someone know. Nobody is safe. I've been so strict and have only seen my children once, for half hour, since March, not even at Christmas. Sorry for rambling. X
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That would hit you hard, Tweetypie. While the relationship didn't last forever, he was obviously someone you loved. Now, you will be grieving his death, and the loss of the relationship at the time. Been there, done that. It doesn't mean you love those around you now any the less, it just means you have been sideswiped by the very firm shutting of a door on a bit of your past, and on a relationship that in some way, helped make you into the person you are. Be kind and gentle with yourself. x
 
My thoughts are with you Tweetypie.

Yesterday I watched via videolink the funeral of a dear friend who died from cancer just before Christmas. She was one of my main supports over the last eight years of increasingly acrimonious divorce proceedings, even when she was quite ill. On Sunday my sister told me that a cousin who had been one of my bridesmaids 47 years ago had died from Covid having been in hospital for 12 days. Not on the same level as your loss but still a shock. Both of them were younger than me and Laura was the first of our generation to die. It takes time to process it and when you can't talk about it, it's very difficult. That's why we're here. xx
 
Thank you so much for being so understanding. I cried reading your messages. Its true that we do still have feelings of loss, even if we haven't seen that person for years. There's so much tragedy around us now. Thank goodness we have our Internet forum friends to cheer us up. And our feathered friends. ? xx
 
Hi Tweetypie.
I'm so sorry to hear that. There's nothing wrong with being sad when a previous partner passes away, especially when it's so unexpected. Does your husband know? Could you talk to him about it? After all, he's the one that you chose to marry, so he doesn't need to feel bad about his predecessor...
 
Sorry to hear Tweetiepie. Time, space and all else has no bearing on how it hits you. I was knocked back by a guy I used to know when I heard that he died and ... well lets say I wasn't a fan but spent a lot of time with him and went through a lot of stuff. Its OK, its a shock and turns over all sorts of feelings.
 
Sorry to read this Tweetypie. You will have lot's of memories of your ex partner, shared times etc and it is bound to hit you hard.
That is why we are here, sometimes it is easier to talk to people that aren't physically close to you than someone who is.

Sorry to read your news as well Margaid, having lost two lifetime friends last year to cancer, one a friend from age 5, I know how hard it is.
 
Tweetypie, I am also very sad to read your news. I can't think of anything sensible to add to all the wise words above, except to say your ex-partner was obviously a key part of your life and so it is completely natural that you mourn him. I think going through the grieving process quite openly, although horrible at the time, is good for us in the long term as it helps us come to terms with a death. I hope you manage to find some solace, in whatever makes you feel happier, soon. I am imagining you outdoors, enjoying nature.

Margaid, I am sorry to hear your news as well, what a sad set of circumstances to get through. You are a braver and stronger woman than I, I'm not sure I could watch a funeral of somebody close to me, I imagine its a whole different experience and not a pleasant one. Aside from your good memories, I do hope you have somebody/something to give you solace and support, anything to help a bit.

BYI - my condolences to you as well, it must have hit you hard, long friendships represent a particular facet of us, don't they, which is different to family relationships. I don't know anybody from when I was a child, its made me think about whether I do enough for/with my close friends I made when I was 18, we have a tendency to think we're immortal, which is obviously nonsense.
 
MrsBiscuit said:
Margaid, I am sorry to hear your news as well, what a sad set of circumstances to get through. You are a braver and stronger woman than I, I'm not sure I could watch a funeral of somebody close to me, I imagine its a whole different experience and not a pleasant one. Aside from your good memories, I do hope you have somebody/something to give you solace and support, anything to help a bit.
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There was no way I could attend he funeral as it was Hampshire and I am in Shropshire; it was better to give the opportunity to one of her local friends. I wasn't sure if I could watch it but thought I could always switch it off. I'm glad I did and I would recommend anyone in a similar position to give it a try. She was divorced (not sure if her ex was there or not) and I'd only met her daughter a few times so it wasn't to support them but for me to say goodbye. I just hope there's something similar for my cousin.

I have my cats (no hens at the moment) and my good friends on here plus all the other posts ...

Condolences BYM, Carol was a "recent" friend - about 20 years but earlier last year a friend of 46 years standing died and that was hard but at least he was in his 80s. I think the hardest thing is not longer being able to share memories with them.
 
It's so good to have friends on here. ? Sometimes you don't realise how many of us have experienced the same things and its comforting to know and hear about them. Its been an odd few days, but I feel much better now. My ex was no comparison to my husband. It was over with him 2 years before I met my husband. If you had stood the two side by side you would have to laugh at the physical difference in appearance. ? Anyway, thank you for listening. I do feel much so better now.
 
What could possibly go wrong.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/jan/21/ministers-ponder-paying-500-to-all-with-covid-in-england
 
Marigold said:
A dog is for life ....
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/jan/22/patient-dog-waits-for-days-outside-hospital
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Don't think any of my cats would do that unfortunately.
 
dinosaw said:
What could possibly go wrong.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/jan/21/ministers-ponder-paying-500-to-all-with-covid-in-england
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They tell us all to stay home, save lives & protect the NHS & then they effectively say "but if you ignore all that, go out socialising with your mates & go to a party with up to 13 other people, we'll reward you with £500 each when you get sick". And I thought that Dominic Cummings was bad!!! :o
 
Totally nuts. They need to make employers like mine, pay you if you have to go off and isolate, not suffer 10 days without pay.
 
Your employer didn't pay you? You were at work when you got exposed, for crying out loud. You're putting your life on the line every day for them, driving the buses. How DARE they shirk their responsibility to you.
 
People getting angry, doesn't bode well.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9181987/Youths-torch-Dutch-Covid-testing-centre-amid-fiery-anti-lockdown-protests-Europe.html
 
And for the self-employed, it’s another version of the same problem. Apparently you’re not entitled to payments if in low-paid work but not on benefits.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/jan/22/funding-self-isolate-covid-rampant
 
Icemaiden said:
Your employer didn't pay you? You were at work when you got exposed, for crying out loud. You're putting your life on the line every day for them, driving the buses. How DARE they shirk their responsibility to you.
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And they wonder why people don't want to take the test :-)19
 
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