I was about to reply to this then realised it wasn't in "Dustbath" - I thought someone was commenting on my "sometime -(soonish I hope)-to-be- ex" husband's new partner!
It isn't really a secret as a lot of people either know or think there is something strange about her. If he doesn't want to people to know he should have thought about it earlier. I'm not going to lie to save his face when people ask me...