do i move or not

[karlooben]

some of you may remember me talking about a farmer friend of mine on here well sadly he passed away about 8 weeks ago and just before the funeral ii went to see his wife and i kinda joked with her that if she had stables at the farm i would move the horses in well she texted me last weekend to go over an see her and shes taken me up on my offer , tomorrow night she has builders going in to see about repairing and turning one of the barns into stables for me .
i'll still be paying her the same rent as i am paying now at present yard but hay and straw will be on tap as they do it there so that will work out cheaper i wont have to drive as its only at the end of my road andd across the common literally a good 5 min walk so thats a saving of about £80 a month , i'll have turnout on the common in time but for now i'd have to share the back paddock with the dexter cows { could be interesting my horses have never seen cows } so thats fine .
i partly be helping her look after the place and keeping and eye on things while shes at work so that gives her peace of mind but also i'll be on hand to help with the chocks and cattle when need be but a part of me doesnt want to move but a part of me does i'm worried that in time she may sell up and i'd be stuck were as the place i am now might be fulling down but at least we know we are safe there for the time being .thing is i adore this woman and her family and as for her husband i had nothing but total respect for him and i feel like i'd be letting him down if i didnt move in she keeps telling me he had the upmost respect and trust for me and that doesnt help ,llols .
they have thought of doing stables etc for a long time but they never wanted to open the place up to loads of people as there's only one way in and out of the farm so they didnt want everyone driving in non stop but with me they dont mind .do you think i should move ?????

 

[Icemaiden]

Hi karlooben.
Ultimately, the only person who can make that decision is you... It's always easier to stay where you are, even if you'd be better off moving; sometimes life has to give us a kick up the rear end to prompt us to move to something better.
On the other hand, as the old saying goes, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it"...

Sleep on it; if you pray, pray about it. At the end of the day, do what's right for you.
If moving your horses makes life better both for you and for your friend's widow, then it could be a win-win situation. Just think about it first, & go with your instinct.

 

[Margaid]

Hi Karlooben,

I know this may sound absolutely daft, but when I have trouble making a decision I toss a coin. Now before everyone shrieks about leaving an important decision to the toss of a coin, what I find happens is that the landing of the coin often generates a strong reaction.

Sometimes I get a very strong "NO !I don't want to do that" reaction, or it can be "Yes, that is what I want". I have to say it doesn't ALWAYS work, but it works a lot of the time. The point is not to blindly follow what the coin dictates but see what you're reaction to it is.

Just an idea which may help you. Difficult times for you.

 

[chrismahon]

Good idea Margaid. Why don't you discuss the issues with the lady Karlooben and say your reservations are those of long term security. She obviously wants you there so perhaps she will give you some assurances?

 

[karlooben]

i have spoken to the woman again and shes up for me moving in as we will both help each other out like when she goes away i can do the cattle etc { cant be that hard :lol: looking after cows } and she will check on my boys nightly an call me if need be we did laugh about that as she knows nothing about horses but i said well you will know when they are laying down and not breathing .
i wont have turn out in the back paddock with the cows as the mud sitiuation goes beyond a joke but thats fine as i finally got hold of the council e/a guy and i asked about the separate paddock thats on the common itsself but fenced of and asked if i could use it he seems to think thats fine and i asked him how much it was { friends were there but they said it was expensive } he didd not know but did say that i may well be able to have it for free if i was willing to do maintence on it which is totally fine by me but if thats the case then i want that in writting and signed by a witness as well as i dont trust the council also this guy wants all livestock back onto the common asap so all i need to do now is wait for the main moormaster to come back from his holiday and ask for a farron if thats how it is spelt to get grazing rights but i wont be moving the horses until the stables are up and ready just in case so it might be a few weeks or a few months before this goes ahead but so far so good .

 

[Margaid]

Sounds as though it's all coming together Karlooben. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

 

[karlooben]

thankyou just got to wait for the stables to start being done , am hoping she gets the quotes this week which will get the ball rolling so maybe in about 5 weeks time they will be moved i really dont want to leave my yard but this new place has to many good points to it .